Why do children suffer with life-threatening food allergies? What’s the purpose, the reason, the big picture? Why does my son have to deal with this? Why does my whole family have to deal with this?
The ‘why’ questions can drive you straight to insanity if you linger there too long. The truth is that we may never know the reasons why our children are suffering from food allergies. The question we should ponder is what can we learn through this struggle. There are blessings in the trials. We just have to open our eyes to the blessings and stay out of the pit of anger.
“Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.” 1 Peter 3:8
One blessing our family has experienced is unity. Because one person cannot solely carry the weight of keeping our son safe, the entire family carries it together. We have become a team, a safety net woven together with love. Sometimes, it takes hardships to weave a beautiful tapestry.
We have learned to trust in God’s plan. This is not an easy road. We traveled down the path of anger, sorrow, pleading for a cure, and even denial. We found dead ends at every one of those paths. God nudged us down the hard road of faith. He has been teaching us all along the way that we must trust in His plan. There is no other option that gives us peace. Anger, sorrow, denial all left us with turmoil inside. Faith, though it is sometimes difficult to keep, is the only road that leads to peace.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways may ways, declares the Lord.” Isaiah 55:8
Looking at the blessings and focusing on gratefulness has left our family with more peace and encouragement than we could have imagined was possible at the beginning of this food allergy journey. We may not understand the whys of the weight we carry but what we can understand is the blessings. Focus on the positives, the gifts, and the blessings. You will see the world with a brighter light than before. This is my prayer for you-to seek the Lord in your trials and find your faith in Him.