The Bridge: Christmas Brings Us a New ‘Food Allergy’ Life

The Bridge: Christmas Brings Us a New ‘Food Allergy’ Life

This year, I’ve received my Christmas present just a little early.  My son reached the top of the wait list and was admitted into the Southern California Food Allergy Institute Tolerance Induction Program earlier this month. Our 2020 will be sprinkled with cross country flights from the east coast to the west coast to attend our son’s appointments, in search of complete food freedom.  To say this will be life changing for us is an understatement.

My prayers have been answered

For close to a year, we have been on the wait list to enter this advanced, scientific, & analytical based approach to obtaining food allergy freedom, praying daily that this request would be granted.  Tears came to my husband’s eyes as we watched the orientation video, explaining the program and it’s unique approach to treatment of food allergies.  The words “food freedom” seem so unattainable to us after living with our son’s life threatening food allergies for over four years.  We have been living quite the opposite of food freedom and have been more in a place like “food prison,” confined by the boundaries of food allergies in order to keep our son alive and safe.

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Serving a Sentence in Food Allergy Prison

We discovered Jaxon’s food allergies on his first birthday when his daycare fed him a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, even though they were a self declared peanut-free facility.  He immediately reacted, with swelling of his face being so severe that he was unrecognizable.  Since that terrifying day, we have been fighting the food allergy battle as a family, all appointed soldiers in the daily battle to keep Jaxon safe.  For those that don’t live this ‘food allergy’ battle, it can be hard to imagine the focus, attention, & sacrifice we all face daily, even moment by moment.  One small lapse in judgement or attention can have deadly outcomes.  The level of anxiety is not something that can be put into quantitative words.  We all live with it, even our son, despite our best efforts to live a normal life.

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The Bridge

As I finish writing my book, a quintessential food allergy handbook for those new to living with food allergies, I dream of the day our family will obtain food freedom.  Follow me in this journey, as I document our visits, our emotions, and the day we finally achieve food freedom.  I hope to encourage you a little along the way.

Being in one world yet dreaming of being in the next reminds me of how we live here on earth but dream of being in heaven.  As the bridge is being built for my family to cross to food freedom, I’m reminded of the bridge Christ built from this earth to heaven.  May your bridges bring that same reminder.  In this new year, take some time to look for the bridges.

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you: For every one who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks it will be opened.”

Matthew 7:7-8


’12 Days of Mom’ Interview

’12 Days of Mom’ Interview

Check out this interview for ’12 Days of Mom’ that gives some tips for handling food allergies from a Mom’s perspective.  Please feel free to share and invite others to view the interview that may benefit from some of the tips discussed!“>12 Days of Mom Interview

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Bethany Jett & Michelle Medlock Adams are co-authors of “They Call Me Mom,” available now at Change Her Story!  This is a lovely book for yourself and such a great gift for any Mom!

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Seeing Light in the Dark

Seeing Light in the Dark

Why do children suffer with life-threatening food allergies?  What’s the purpose, the reason, the big picture?  Why does my son have to deal with this?  Why does my whole family have to deal with this?

The ‘why’ questions can drive you straight to insanity if you linger there too long.  The truth is that we may never know the reasons why our children are suffering from food allergies.  The question we should ponder is what can we learn through this struggle.  There are blessings in the trials.  We just have to open our eyes to the blessings and stay out of the pit of anger.

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“Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.” 1 Peter 3:8

One blessing our family has experienced is unity.  Because one person cannot solely carry the weight of keeping our son safe, the entire family carries it together.  We have become a team, a safety net woven together with love.  Sometimes, it takes hardships to weave a beautiful tapestry.

We have learned to trust in God’s plan.  This is not an easy road.  We traveled down the path of anger, sorrow, pleading for a cure, and even denial.  We found dead ends at every one of those paths.  God nudged us down the hard road of faith.  He has been teaching us all along the way that we must trust in His plan.  There is no other option that gives us peace.  Anger, sorrow, denial all left us with turmoil inside.  Faith, though it is sometimes difficult to keep, is the only road that leads to peace.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways may ways, declares the Lord.”  Isaiah 55:8

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Looking at the blessings and focusing on gratefulness has left our family with more peace and encouragement than we could have imagined was possible at the beginning of this food allergy journey.  We may not understand the whys of the weight we carry but what we can understand is the blessings.  Focus on the positives, the gifts, and the blessings.  You will see the world with a brighter light than before.  This is my prayer for you-to seek the Lord in your trials and find your faith in Him.

“Rejoice in the Lord always.  I will say it again: Rejoice!  Let your graciousness be known to everyone.  The Lord is near.  Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4: 4-7

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Dangerous Kisses

Dangerous Kisses

Valentine’s Day is an entire day set aside for expressing your love for others.  It’s a day of showing appreciation, love, and sometimes a little romance.  For twenty-four hours, we set out to spread happiness and cheer in the lives of our loved ones.  What could be bad about that?

For someone with food allergies, any day could be threatening but Valentine’s Day could be deadly.  As people with food allergies, we live in a world filled with the foods that could hurt us, even kill us.  We encounter them everywhere we go.  We take drastic measures to keep ourselves safe and free from exposure to those dangerous foods.  But on a day made for sharing, safety can be more elusive.  Sharing can be deadly for us.

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Kisses, for one thing, can be extremely risky.  How so?  Food allergens can stay in saliva for hours.  Our digestive system starts in the mouth, when we take the first bite of food.  The saliva moistens the food while the teeth break down the food into smaller pieces.  Those tiny pieces of food allergens can remain in saliva for hours.  Rinsing your mouth, brushing your teeth, and chewing gum are actions that can help remove the food allergen proteins more quickly, but they are not fail-proof.  Food can be trapped between teeth and in braces or other orthodontic equipment, causing the food allergen proteins to be present in saliva for extended amounts of time.

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Saliva is not the only carrier of food allergens.  Facial hair such as mustaches, and the currently popular full beard, can carry traces of food allergens too.  My husband, who has a beard, came home from work one day and kissed our four-year-old son on the cheek.  Our son’s cheek immediately started swelling and turning an intense red.  I asked my husband what he had eaten earlier in the day and he responded that he had eaten peanut butter crackers earlier that morning, but that he had rinsed his mouth out and washed his face immediately after consumption.  That was eight hours prior to kissing our son on the cheek.  Our son is extremely allergic to peanuts.  With this in mind, my husband took extra precautions after consuming peanut products.  Most times, that is enough.  Unfortunately, sometimes, it is not.  Studies have shown that transmission of food allergy proteins through saliva has resulted in anaphylaxis.  Thankfully, the contact reaction was the full extent of my son’s reaction that day.  It was an eye-opening experience for both my husband and I.

Sharing utensils, cups, and straws can also be dangerous for those with food allergies.  Buffets and pot-lucks make us cringe.  All the shared spoons, forks, and tongs have anaphylaxis written all over them.  Sharing, in these instances, is just not safe.  Skip the fondue date this year for a more allergy friendly meal.

How about this Valentine’s Day, we celebrate love with a little different approach?  Share kindness, not food.  Acts of kindness go a long way!  If you must buy a gift, instead of the traditional gift of the variety box of chocolates, give a book.  You can’t go wrong with a book, right?  Well, I may be a little biased.  I am a writer, after all.  But seriously, you can never have too many books.

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If you must share kisses, be sure they are “safe.”  Happy Valentine’s Day! Be kind and be safe!

Snow Skiing Rescued Us From the Food Allergy Winter Blues

Snow Skiing Rescued Us From the Food Allergy Winter Blues

Winter is a tough season for our food allergy family.  Coming off the heels of multiple food-centered celebrations, we are literally exhausted.  Tremendous planning, safe proofing, and stress are all a part of the holiday season.  We traveled through Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s with flying (allergic reaction-free) colors only to land at two upcoming food-centered celebrations: Superbowl Sunday and Valentine’s Day.  With only a few weeks of breathing room between the two seasons, our family needed a break!

My amazing extended family invited us to go snow skiing.  I grew up skiing every year but it had been over twenty years since I’d hit the slopes.  None of my four children had ever been before.  With ages ranging from 4 to 16 years old,  they were all eager to learn to ski and snowboard.  I was a little apprehensive at first, as I always am when we encounter a new and unfamiliar environment in which I have to assess the dangers for my son with severe food allergies, but we were up for the adventure.  And we needed it.


Between private snow boarding lessons for the oldest and ski school for the younger three, they all took to it quickly!  The lovely thing about ski school was that they fed them nothing.  NOTHING.  That is heavenly music to a food allergy mom’s ears.  Just heavenly.  I didn’t have to worry about what they were feeding my son or what the other children were eating that my son may be allergic to.  I almost cried when they told me there was no food served.  I was able to ski the slopes, only worrying about the normal parent stuff but not the food allergy stuff!  Of coarse, I was never more than a few minutes away from their location, but on this day, I was not hovering.


Thank you Appalachian Ski School for handing the children back to their parents for a one and a half hour break for lunch.  Thank you for starting ski school at 10 am.  Thank you for ending ski school at 3:30 pm.  Thank you for arranging the day so that parents could feed their children snacks and lunch so that you did not need to.  Praise God my son could learn to ski without the usual worry about food.  And I could ski too.  I treasured every second.  It was relaxing and exhilarating all at the same time.  You food allergy parents out there know what I mean.


My children learned a skill that will stick with them for life.  They learned it together.  They learned it safely.  We were all able to appreciate the beauty of God’s artwork and the natural playground He created for us.  Now that’s a family vacation!  We all needed a little break.  It was just the refreshment necessary to keep us pushing forward.

“For they refreshed my spirit and yours also.  Such men deserve recognition.”    1 Corinthians 16:18 


Accommodating Food Allergies: Why Is It So Hard?

Accommodating Food Allergies: Why Is It So Hard?

Forcing a person in a wheelchair to either walk up the steps or not attend the special event they came for seems cruel, right?  If someone is in a wheelchair, they probably can’t climb up the steps to the front door.  So what do we do?  We build a ramp so they can safely enter the building and be included with everyone else, despite their inability to walk up the steps.

So why is it so hard for those with food allergies to receive some type of  accommodation and support?  Is it a lack of understanding, knowledge, or empathy?  Is it because we, as humans, don’t want to step out of our comfort zones?  Is it because food allergies are not recognized as serious?

People with food allergies so often walk into an event without any protective measures in place for them.  All around them, people are consuming their allergens, dropping crumbs, and cross-contaminating “safe” food with “unsafe” food.  People with food allergies, including helpless young children, are offered little to no protection from the public.  How many children and adults with food allergies have to die before people wake up and stand up for them?

Should they stop going to school, church, playgrounds, restaurants, museums?  Should they stop going to public venues or events?  These are choices that families with food allergies are forced to make everyday.  It seems cruel to exclude them completely because of their life-threatening allergies to food.  It also seems cruel, in my opinion, to expose them to those foods that can take their lives.  Unfortunately, until the public is more aware of and sympathetic to food allergies, many children and adults (even entire families) are excluded from public events.

Prior to the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990, the accommodations were not always present for those in wheelchairs.  It literally took an act of Congress to ensure people with deficits, disabilities, and special needs were not discriminated against.  Almost thirty years later, it seems inconceivable that there is any public building in the United States that does not have accommodations for Americans with Disabilities.  My sincere hope and prayer is that someday people with food allergies can also be included in such a way that their safety is at the forefront of people’s minds.  If it takes an act of Congress, so be it.

In your own communities, I urge you to educate yourself on the food allergy epidemic that continues to take countless lives each year.  I beg you to find ways to support and include those with food allergies safely.  No kind deed goes unnoticed.

“And the King will answer them, ” Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.”  Matthew 25:40

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A Day In The Life…

A Day In The Life…

Fundraisers often involve 5K runs or being held in “jail” until you raise enough funds to be released.  Recently, I came across a fundraiser (the Top 10 Challenge) for food allergy research funding that was quite different.  Instead of the usual 5K, the participant is to avoid food allergens for one meal or for one day.  Sponsors contribute monetarily to support the participant’s sacrifice of predetermined foods (usually the allergens of their loved one), in honor of people with food allergies.  What an absolutely awesome idea!  Not only is the participant supporting people with food allergies through a sacrificial act, they are raising funds for research to help end food allergies.

It sounds simple, right?  Just avoid peanuts, milk, or eggs for the day.  This only sounds simple.  Once you begin reading labels, you will see how difficult it is to find foods that do not contain these allergens.  Sometimes you are lucky enough to find foods that don’t contain peanuts, eggs, or milk in the ingredient list, offering a glimmer of hope.  However, as you read on down the label, you find that they “may contain” your allergens due to cross contamination.  Your food choice list becomes short.

Choosing to live a day in the life of someone with food allergies is exhausting.  The substance (food) that you must have to keep you alive, can also kill you if it’s the wrong type of substance.  Learning that the foods considered safe for you may contain the ones that aren’t safe for you by cross contamination is defeating to say the least.  What you can eat becomes a more narrow spectrum.  Restricting your choices so drastically makes you begin to feel imprisoned.  It’s as if you are living in a glorious mansion but confined to one tiny linen closet because that’s your only safe space.  Eventually, you become extremely grateful for that tiny little safe space.

As a parent of a child with severe food allergies, I am choosing to take part in the Top 10 Challenge fundraiser for food allergy research.  My prayer is that many people will take part in this Challenge, not only to raise funds but also to experience a day in the life of someone with food allergies.  Although you may feel restricted in your food choices, your eyes will be opened to some other beautiful things you may have otherwise missed.  Try it and you’ll see what I mean.

If you are interested in the Top 10 Challenge, please visit My Challenge Ambassador Page to learn more about how you can support or visit the Top 10 Challenge Page.

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